So many successful people credit their sense of self and their confidence to their achievement. But not many people really explain how to build confidence, or how to become confident. It's tricky, because confidence is built on different things, but overall it is built on choices and accomplishments that feed your passion, and that make you feel happy and proud of who you are. Discovering these things is one of the most worthwhile pursuits of you life.
Here are 7 ways you can begin building your confidence:
Know Why You're Here and Where You're Going. If you have goals... Start achieving them. If you don't, go get some. Why are you at the place you're in right now? Where is this road leading you? Where do you want to be? What is something you can do right now to take a single step in that direction?
Do More of What Makes You Happy
What do you love to do in your spare time? Is it to get outside, hike, kayak and enjoy the outdoors? Or do you live for lying on your couch and watching all the excellent television that's available? Whatever it is you love, create space for it, life is short- you need time to enrich your life and to recharge to be your best self.
. Obstacles in life come in two categories: Things you can control and things you can't control. So categorize your problems into each. If it's something you can't control (I wish I was tall enough to join the NBA, or I wish I hadn't tripped down the stairs yesterday -- I looked like an idiot). You can't control the past and you can't change everything, so don't think about it. If it's something you can control then fix it. Right now. Even if it seems insurmountable, find something to do to overcome the problem in part. Even the mightiest mountain could be moved with a single shovel and a lot of patience.
Failing isn't your enemy, it's fearing failure that truly cripples you. If you set big goals and have big dreams, you're going to feel overwhelmed, and you're inevitably going to feel like you can't do it. In those moments you have to look inside yourself, and gather every ounce of courage you have and just keep going. Every single wildly successful person has been afraid, and they've kept working and taking risks anyway, because what they are trying to accomplish is more important and urgent than their fear they will fail. Think about how much you want to achieve your goal, then put your fear to the side, and keep going, one day at a time.
People respect people when they say they're going to do something and they do it. More importantly, you will respect yourself if you say you're going to do something and you do it, and belief in yourself will come easier, because you know you are not afraid of the work. Action gives your words meaning, and it will help you pave a path to accomplishing your goals, strengthening your relationships and feeling proud of who you are.
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The foundation of unhappiness is decisions made for short-term comfort that impede long-term goals: if you're trying to save money, you can't go out to eat as much, if you have a project deadline coming up, you can't go out with friends as often, if you're trying to lose weight, you can not eat french fries often, etc. Big goals require big sacrifices, you have to dig deep and really discipline yourself. In the moment it is tedious and frustrating and makes life significantly harder, but it will pay off, and the pride you feel will be worth it. You have to decide if your short-term comfort is more important than your long-term goals, but know that long-term goals will bring you far more happiness in the long run than your short-term comfort.
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Don't Care What Others Think
There are going to be so many people who will tell you you can not accomplish your goal. Whether is it rejection from employers, schools, or just negative feedback from friends or family, people will try to tell you your goal is too big, or that you're not ready, or that you can't do it, that it's never been done before, etc., and you absolutely can not listen to them. You must be resolute. While they tell you the odds are against you, etc., just remember most people are wrong about most things. People change the world every day, despite everyone around them telling them it can't be done. If you think you can do it, you can it. Don't listen to them, believe in yourself and keep going.
Finally, when everything seems lost and everything is stacked against you -- just remember: You're Awesome.
Did I leave any off? What are some ways you stay confident?